What 20somethings Really Think Of Traditional vs. Online Dating

Lindsey Washington
Lindsey Washington aka lindsanity to her friends can either be found roaming the city looking for shade or out with friends throwing shade. She is currently trying to work on her obsession with Lil Wayne and accepting the fact that they will probably never get married, also Drake.

To swipe or not to swipe? That is the question.

Which do you prefer? I posed this question to a few of my friends regarding their preference between traditional and online dating. I got a variety of answers, both positive and negative, with explanations that really made me think more than I previously had about the topic.

Here are some highlights from the conversations I had:

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Some were a hard pass on the online world:

Me: “Which do you prefer?”

E: “Definitely not online, as you know from my Tinder experience.”

L: “I have zero experience with both because I am a loser. My ex set me back on the modern dating game. What’s Tinder?”

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Some were in between:

Me: “Which do you guys prefer, online dating or traditional?”

C: “Am I allowed to say neither?”

Me: “Haha. Okay, but if you have to choose.”

R: “I still feel weird about the idea of online dating. I would prefer just to meet someone out, but that also wasn’t working very well, which is why I tried out Tinder. Overall it’s been a good experience for me, but it’s not like I date like crazy.”

C: “The struggle is real.”

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Some were indifferent:

Me: “Which do you guys prefer, online dating or traditional?”

N: “Being alone.”

Me: “Haha.”

N: “I honestly don’t really do either. But I guess if I had to choose, it would be traditional.”

Me: “And why is that?”

N: “Because you can’t recreate the feeling of meeting someone in person for the first time and having a connection with them.”

Some were detailed:

Me: “Which do you guys prefer, online dating or traditional?”

K: “Both.”

A: “Both.”

T: “Both.”

Me: “Okay, I need some specifics.”

K: “Why not? That is the question.”

T: “I know of a few [online dating] success stories. One couple has been together for a few years now and is getting married in May. Technology makes it faster to connect.”

A: “In my case, I think online dating is an easy way for busy professionals to meet people that they normally wouldn’t cross paths with. Think about it. If I get up, go to work, and then come home, then chances are I won’t run across anyone new. I’d have to venture out to happy hour or something like that. Then maybe I will meet someone, but then he’d have to be out at the same time at the time place. If he’s a busy professional, then he’s probably going home after work, too.”

Some didn’t care:

Me: “Which do you prefer, online dating or traditional?”

E: “Anything.”

Me: “Why?”

E: “Because I just want to meet someone.”

Some were thinking long term:

Me: “Which do you prefer, online dating or traditional?”

A: “Dating, what’s that? In the city, it’s so hard. I go through phases where I download Bumble and Tinder and swipe for amusement and then delete. I’ve only agreed to go on one date through those apps. I prefer traditional. I always say I don’t want my love story to start with that time I swiped right.”

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As far as myself, I fall somewhere in between. I’ve used Tinder, Bumble, and Match — who hasn’t? But the idea of online dating kind of sketches me out. I also would hate my love story to start out with “I swiped right.” However, if time is money and money is time, then I am totally broke. Meeting people is difficult, and everyone is always busy.

So where do you stand? Is technology helping or hurting?