How To Handle A Person With INTJ Personality From A Fellow Introvert

Lindsey Washington
Lindsey Washington aka lindsanity to her friends can either be found roaming the city looking for shade or out with friends throwing shade. She is currently trying to work on her obsession with Lil Wayne and accepting the fact that they will probably never get married, also Drake.

“When you come to realize, that the way you feel is a product only of what you choose to give your attention to, then you begin to realize that under any and all conditions, you can feel good. You also begin to realize that as you control the way you feel, you control the way you are flowing energy. And as you control the way you are flowing energy, you literally align the circumstances and events that create your experience.” – Abraham Hicks


The INTJ personality: Introversion, intuition, thinking and judgement. According to, “INTJs form just two percent of the population,” and are often described as calculating, heartless, cold, determined, intimidating, contradictory, honest (almost to a fault) — I could go on.

As an INTJ myself, when I first took the standard Myers Briggs personality type test and started reading my results, I was shocked. Everything I was reading described me to a T, and I was super excited to finally find something that basically explained who I was so well and in so much detail.

Since we are so rare and so misunderstood, I thought I’d give the world a sneak peak into the head of an INTJ by way of my favorite communication: GIFs & memes.

If you see me out at a party and I have this look on my face:


It actually means that I’m having a great time, you should probably come up and speak to me, and I am ready to have a conversation. Don’t let my horrible resting bitch face fool you. The interior does not match the exterior.


When someone tries to tell me about myself:


It’s funny because as an INTJ, I am very self aware and I know myself very well. I know my good traits and my bad traits, the appealing and the not so appealing. I’m also super introverted, so I spend a lot of time alone, therefore fostering even more self reflection.


How I look on the outside



How I am on the inside


While I may look like a stone cold ice princess on the outside, I’m actually overflowing with emotions on the inside! You just have to ask because I probably won’t offer up any information about myself. In fact, you might have to really listen up closely when I do talk because, while information might not come pouring out, it’s there — a little hidden, but definitely there.


How it feels when you ask me an honest question:


You know the saying the truth hurts? That’s basically my life motto. Yes, my response might hurt but I either don’t realize it or honestly don’t care. You asked me a question so why wouldn’t I answer honestly!? Do I think you should take this new job? Do I like what you’re wearing? How do you like my new boyfriend? Are you sure you want the answers to these questions? Maybe, but then again, maybe not. Just know I’m not doing it from a malicious place or because I don’t care about you, it’s because I do and I only want the best for you.


You see this picture? This is me (disclaimer this is not actually me) being super happy and ALONE.


What a lot of people may forget is that the I in INTJ stands for introvert, meaning I like to be alone. After about 3-5 hours of social time I need to RELAX and unwind aka reading a book, watching TV, painting my nails, browsing the internet or even writing articles like these! If someone tries to stretch me past this time or demands too much from me, I shut down and turn into actual stone.


My spirit animal is this pondering Oprah:


I take everything in. I’m constantly processing information, trying to figure out the best angle to come at things, trying to figure out how to express myself, trying to regulate my emotions and judge on whether or not I should speak on the issue or stay silent. There’s a lot going on in my head at all times, and it’s a struggle always trying to keep it together.


How we view the world


We view the world as a series of walls and you should know there is not one that is too high for us. While the goals in our life may seem impossible, we don’t necessarily see it that way. Yes, it may take time and seem crazy, but this is how we like things. We also hold ourselves to very high standards and believe that NOTHING is impossible.


the force is real - Imgur

Welcome to my INTJ world! I have yet to meet very many (or any?) other people like me, but if you’re a fellow INTJ’er and I left something out, add it on! I’d love to know how you view the world.

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