The biggest adjustment I had to make when I went off to college was living with a roommate.
At my wonderful home in Maryland, I not only had my own room, but my own bathroom and walk-in closet. Needless to say, sharing my space (a small New York space at that) was not something I was looking forward to. However, I was one of the lucky ones. My roommate and I lived together for all four years of college and, if she were to ever move back to New York, I would live with her in a heartbeat. She was, and is, the best. Besides for one small incident with red peppers and a few weeks of smelly shoes, we were alright.
But, sometimes that’s just not the case. I spoke to some others who just weren’t as lucky.
“I will say that first semester sophomore year we had another difficult roommate and none of us knew what to do. It was difficult because there were clearly untreated mental illness issues at hand, and a severely unhealthy lifestyle that no doubt enhanced these pre-existing issues. That can be very hard to deal with.” – Lucy
Well my current roommates are my parents and siblings and so there really is nothing that bothers me that I can’t be upfront about.
“Senior year I lived with six girls and no matter how hard you try to be kumbaya, there were still issues. I remember one particular incident when I was fed up with being a cleaning lady, so I decided I wouldn’t clean after anyone but myself for an entire week. Flash forward seven days: I see a coffee cup with moldy coffee floating around. Never again will I live with that many girls.” – Anonymous
“One of my roommates in college did not pay his rent, or for anything else. I just hated him for awhile. And the other [roommate] was just super isolated. I waited for the right moment, talked to him about [being so isolated] and now we’re super good.” -Brandon
“I had three roommates once in a townhouse in college. One of my roommates decides to buy a cat even though the complex had a strict ‘no pets’ policy. Needless to say, the cat made a mess and caused all of us to have ‘damages’ to pay after the lease was up. I had to have an adult conversation when it was time to tell my roommates that I was not paying for any damages. It was a big deal because it took weeks of back and forth with the complex to have those charges removed from my security deposit. I have not had a roommate since.” – Tyler
I never got along with any of my roommates, because I don’t like people.
I second that motion, but I also love living with roommates. Being such an introvert I can see myself sinking into complete seclusion living alone, so it’s necessary for my mental, physical and emotional state to be around people.
Yet listening to some of these roommate horror stories, I can see why having another person around can be hard.
Long story short: My roommate would drunk-eat my food all of the time and tried to blame it on my other roommate.
“I wanted to move in with my boyfriend to save money and gave my roommates six months notice. One of them was devastated and didn’t speak to me for about two to three months. Awkward.” – Anonymous
I lived with my ex-boyfriend for four months after we broke up.