Finding Your Path: 3 Real Steps To Discovering Your True Purpose In Life

Luke Bender
Luke is a life coach for ambitious people who want to be successful, but aren’t sure what to do or how to do it. You can find more of his work on his blog,, where he writes regularly about self-awareness, social media, and online business.

We all know a few people who have always known exactly what they wanted to do with their life –  become a doctor, an engineer, a performer, save the rainforest or help children in Africa.

It seems like these people have it so easy; they have a clear vision for their life, always love what they’re doing and never question their decisions.

However, most of us seem to wander through life with no clear direction or purpose. We take the best job we can find and end up in a career we don’t care about.

Before you know it, you might find yourself stressed out, tired and sick of your job with no end in sight. Then the questions start: Why am I doing this? What is the meaning and purpose of my life? What am I even passionate about?

If you can relate to any of this, I truly hope this article can provide some value to your life.

When you find your passion and purpose in life, it gives you direction so you can start down a new path towards greater things. Passion and purpose are terms that get thrown around a lot, but what do they actually mean?

Passion is a deep inner desire to achieve or do something. We get a sense of fulfillment, purpose, and direction in life when we pursue our passion. It should also naturally fit into your life by aligning with your strengths, desires and goals.

One’s passion can take on many different shapes and forms, it can be an end goal that you want to achieve, or an ongoing job or career that you love.

The process of discovering your passion is different for everyone so keep in mind that some of these strategies might not apply to you. However, I’ve done my best to explore all aspects of this issue in order to get you on the right path.


Step 1: Know Your Why

It’s no secret that having a passion and purpose in life is important, and there are many reasons why you should put effort into finding it.

Having passion and purpose in life gives you a sense of fulfillment, reduces stress, brings you more happiness, allows you to self-motivate and will cause you to have a greater impact on others.

However, you need to figure out the most important reasons for you personally.

If you don’t know why you want to find your passion, you probably won’t put in the effort into finding it. Don’t just take what you hear and attempt to apply it to your own life without first making it specific to you.

So, why do you want to find your passion and purpose in life?

Are you feeling lost or unhappy? Are you bored with life? Do you want to be remembered for something great? Do you want to help more people? Is the work you’re currently doing meaningless?

Your WHY needs to be deep and incredibly important to you!

Once you figure this out, write it down.

This first step is so important and will set the foundation for your success in actually finding your passion and purpose in life!


Step 2: Self-Awareness

This step is all about self-examination and finding out what you enjoy and find interesting, your strengths and what the ultimate goals are for your life.

As a general rule, we enjoy things we’re good at. If you look back throughout your life, what have you always enjoyed? What do you love talking about or doing? What do you find interesting? What do you naturally want to learn more about?

You should be able to come up with a few things here.

You now need to identify your unique strengths so you can use them to your advantage. Self-examine yourself and ask people you know what they think you’re good at.

Are you good at talking to people? Listening to people? Writing? Reading? Making things look good? Organizing?

These are just a few ideas to get you thinking.

If you’re still having trouble with this, take a personality test or read “StrengthsFinder 2.0” to help you get clear on your unique strengths so you can start building on them.

You also need to know what the ultimate goals are for you life.

If you could dream up your ideal life, what would it look like? Where do you want to live? What do you want to be remembered for? What world problem do you want to solve?

You must have a clear vision of what you want your future to look like so you can start taking the appropriate steps towards that future!

Write down your interests, strengths and ultimate goals.


Step 3: Have New Experiences

Finding your passion in life is an experimental and exploratory process and can take some time. You need to continually try new things and do life experiments until you find what you really connect with.

You can start by making big or small changes in your life, either will work. Here are some ideas of things you can start doing:

  • Read a book.
  • Do research and learn.
  • Get a new job.
  • Move to a new city or country.
  • Meet new people.
  • Try new foods.
  • Travel.
  • Try a bunch of new activities.

If you’ve ever thought, “I’d like to try that someday” or “that seems interesting or fun,” it’s time to take action on those thoughts.

Meeting new people is the best and easiest way to get started with this process. People you meet will give you new insights into life and open doors to new opportunities.

During this process, you must constantly be getting feedback from your emotions. Be aware of how things make you feel so you know when you’re on the right track.

If you don’t like something or you have a bad experience, GREAT. Now you know that it wasn’t for you and you can move on!

This process is not easy, it requires you to take action and get out of your comfort zone, but it’s totally worth it! The most important part, though, is to be proactive and take action – things will never turn out the way you want if you just sit around waiting for everything to fall into place.

I hope this article brings some clarity to your life and helps you find a new path that inspires and excites you! There is nothing like the feeling of knowing with absolute certainty that you’ve found something you enjoy and will be able to do for the rest of your life!


For more, you can visit Luke’s blog, where he writes regularly about self-awareness, social media, and online business. 

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