What was the moment for you when you realized you weren’t just a kid anymore?
Last week I had $4 in my bank account. Usually when this happens I call my parents, attempt to sound very sad, and then hope they help me out until my next paycheck. This time, my mom just laughed and told me I need to budget better.
That’s when I knew, I was officially a grown up.
Here are some moments when other 20somethings realized they were, in fact, grown up.
“When I had to start paying taxes.” – Elise, 25, New York, NY
“When my car got impounded I realized I was officially an adult. I guess I got too many parking tickets and my car got taken away. I had to Uber to the lot where they had taken it and basically pay all my money to get my car back. I felt super irresponsible and was just like, ‘Welp! Can’t be reckless anymore, I’m an adult.’” – Kathryn, 26, Washington, D.C.
“After I graduated from college, I lived at home for a couple years and anticipated an opportunity to save money while doing so. However, my parents went through financial trouble and became dependent on me for some of the household income. During this time, I had to be financially responsible for utilities around the house and for my younger brothers’ extracurricular activities. My days of innocence were over; the dependency of four loved ones forced me to embrace family responsibilities as a capable, organized, and contributing adult.” -Anonymous
“I felt like an adult when I started falling apart, like around 24 to 25. Things just started going downhill. I started having stomach issues, my skin got bad, and I can’t eat what I want and not gain weight.” – Leanne, 25, Fairfield, Conn.
Although growing up sucks (paying taxes, paying rent, etc.), it’s not always awful.
It’s also kind of amazing. I personally am astonished by the fact that I live on my own, get myself to work every day, and manage to feed myself when just 10 years ago I couldn’t even legally drive myself to the grocery store.
“I don’t think there was ever a moment when I realized I wasn’t a kid, but I have my moments. Like when I get up every day and go to work, or I’m sitting in a meeting and want to go home. But it’s not always bad. Like sometimes when I travel I’m like, ‘Wow I’m on the other side of the world. I’m a grown up!’” – Ann, 35, Alexandria, VA
When I finally moved out, I was like, ‘This it is! I’ve made it.’
– Chris, 26, Charlotte, NC
“I was talking on the phone to my sister and we got on the subject of 401Ks, retirement funds, and other things. Twenty minutes passed and I was like, ‘Wow, we are getting older.’” – Kymiel, 28, Bowie, MD
“I finally felt like I was an adult after my first year of college. When I was a sophomore, I moved off campus, got my own apartment, and got a car.” – Brandon, 23, Tallahassee, FL
Most of the time I really don’t feel grown up.
-Molly, New York, NY
“I thought I always felt like a grown up, but realized I never really did until the first time I had to drive myself back to the airport. Being in Denver and not having family to drive me to or pick me up from the airport, I had to drive myself, park in the lot, and deal with the airport on my own. Driving back from the airport, it hit me like a ton of bricks. I actually felt like a grown up for the first time ever.” – Maria, 35, Denver, CO